Comments on: Acting Pro Se is Such a Pain http://www.financegetspersonal.com/2008/04/21/acting-pro-se-is-such-a-pain/ Personal Finance Blog of a Girl Trying to Get Out of Debt and Change Careers Sat, 13 Mar 2010 21:45:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: financegirl http://www.financegetspersonal.com/2008/04/21/acting-pro-se-is-such-a-pain/#comment-230 financegirl Wed, 23 Apr 2008 19:38:25 +0000 http://financegetspersonal.wordpress.com/?p=138#comment-230 I think my husband might have contacted the child support office and they said there needed to be a court order in place...but it's probably worth calling them again to see what help they can give. Always seems they are more interested in collecting child support, especially because the ex was on state assistance at the time. We haven't done the other things, though - this is awesome, thanks! I think my husband might have contacted the child support office and they said there needed to be a court order in place…but it’s probably worth calling them again to see what help they can give. Always seems they are more interested in collecting child support, especially because the ex was on state assistance at the time.

We haven’t done the other things, though - this is awesome, thanks!

]]> By: Helene http://www.financegetspersonal.com/2008/04/21/acting-pro-se-is-such-a-pain/#comment-231 Helene Wed, 23 Apr 2008 19:24:24 +0000 http://financegetspersonal.wordpress.com/?p=138#comment-231 Which state do you live in? Have you contacted your local child support enforcement office and asked if they can open a case and help you change the support order to reflect the actual custody schedule? If you haven't, it may be worth a shot - you can find links to offices on your state via this page: http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/states/ AND, have you spoken to a Bar Association Referral Service lawyer to ask what you need to do? They usually only charge about $35 for a one-hour consultation and should be able to give you a general idea of what you need to file and where to find it. AND, while doing your legal research, have you looked in any Family Law manuals that are written for new lawyers to use? They usually break down processes and include sample forms that may help. Good luck. Which state do you live in? Have you contacted your local child support enforcement office and asked if they can open a case and help you change the support order to reflect the actual custody schedule? If you haven’t, it may be worth a shot - you can find links to offices on your state via this page:

http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/states/

AND, have you spoken to a Bar Association Referral Service lawyer to ask what you need to do? They usually only charge about $35 for a one-hour consultation and should be able to give you a general idea of what you need to file and where to find it.

AND, while doing your legal research, have you looked in any Family Law manuals that are written for new lawyers to use? They usually break down processes and include sample forms that may help.

Good luck.

]]> By: financegirl http://www.financegetspersonal.com/2008/04/21/acting-pro-se-is-such-a-pain/#comment-229 financegirl Wed, 23 Apr 2008 01:43:38 +0000 http://financegetspersonal.wordpress.com/?p=138#comment-229 That's a good idea to have both parties sign the agreements, even if we're not sure how to officially file it yet. By sending the child support payments to the state each month, she can't come back and say we owe her back child support, and we could get copies of her cancelled checks and such if we had to. I suppose with the signed agreement, the issue wouldn't seem so urgent. That’s a good idea to have both parties sign the agreements, even if we’re not sure how to officially file it yet. By sending the child support payments to the state each month, she can’t come back and say we owe her back child support, and we could get copies of her cancelled checks and such if we had to. I suppose with the signed agreement, the issue wouldn’t seem so urgent.

]]> By: ldub http://www.financegetspersonal.com/2008/04/21/acting-pro-se-is-such-a-pain/#comment-228 ldub Tue, 22 Apr 2008 16:25:39 +0000 http://financegetspersonal.wordpress.com/?p=138#comment-228 I have no real idea how the laws work on it, but I would suspect for now you should at least write out the agreement and have the ex sign the statement that lays it out. At least that way, you've got a paper trail on your side! That said, her payments to you each month (or about that...) of the $350 would also be a good part of establishing the pro tem arrangement you've had, if you were ever called upon to prove it. As for a permanent change, I haven't the foggiest! I have no real idea how the laws work on it, but I would suspect for now you should at least write out the agreement and have the ex sign the statement that lays it out. At least that way, you’ve got a paper trail on your side! That said, her payments to you each month (or about that…) of the $350 would also be a good part of establishing the pro tem arrangement you’ve had, if you were ever called upon to prove it. As for a permanent change, I haven’t the foggiest!

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